New Edge Feminine

As I look out of my window gazing at the city skyline I start to wonder, I wonder what every single person in this city is doing right now.

Are they just getting home from a long day at the office? Are they settling down and getting ready for bed? Hitting the gym? Relaxing with loved ones? Arguing? Making love?

I sit on the end of my bed, typing on my laptop and watching Sex in the City, very cliché right, a young woman watching sex in the city alone, in bed, who would have thought?

And then I start to think about my own love life, I have gone through my entire dating life in long-term relationships and I have never questioned why.

At 24 years old, I am thinking about settling down (again) and I’m a bit scared, to say the least. I have lived with two of my previous boyfriends and well, both didn’t end fantastically well. The first man I lived with had some major mummy issues and it had sent him into a crazy downward spiral in which I was caught up in, and so, I moved back with my parents.

The second, well, the second was my fault, I had moved in with my boyfriend, yes, my current boyfriend and it was fantastic, it felt like we had been waiting for that moment for years (which we had) and finally we had a place of our own and it was magical. As time went on I realised that it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be, I was alone most of the day as I was a student at the time and both me and my partner had different social schedules – meaning I went out almost every night…

I remember thinking that I was too young to ‘settle down’ and that my head was full of crazy ideas that couldn’t possibly be fulfilled by being stagnant, I needed to be ‘free’. I can tell you right now, I was so very wrong and that idea more or less ruined me.

I still think to this day that it was one of the worst ideas I ever had, but then I think of the life lessons and the experiences I have had since then. After the break-up, I lived alone in my own little studio flat, which was great until I had to balance the stress of university with the stress of working full-time at a retail store. It’s safe to say that I had multiple anxiety attacks and several nervous break downs (one ended with a phone call to my mum telling her to call an ambulance). Look, don’t get me wrong I had men that were ‘interested’ in me and I always gave them a chance, we hung out, got drunk, the usual. But in the end, who did I want to talk to? Who did I want to come over and give me a hug and tell me everything was going to be ok? The person I had just broken up with, what a selfish bitch I was, right?

Sometimes these experiences make a relationship stronger, a kind of ‘make or break’ time out if you will. In this case, when we eventually got back together it was a bit of both, it was nice to finally have the reassurance of being a couple again but I knew there was also an unspoken hatred towards me for the break-up. This hatred didn’t just come from my boyfriend, it came from me as well, I knew that he would have trouble trusting me again and I knew that I had been a complete and utter bitch to him so of course, I questioned why he had taken me back at all, if I am honest, I still do.

So now, I live with my mum and he lives with his friends, I always feel like he got the better end of the deal because well, I didn’t have a lot of choice at the time as I was penniless, oh wait, I still am…cough, but I do live rent free I guess??

I feel that now the relationship ‘power’ has definitely shifted, I used to be the bossy one, the one who would tell her boyfriend how she wanted it, where she wanted to go for lunch, what she wanted etc. Now, I guess that has been knocked out of me, I don’t feel like I can be that bossy, obnoxious girl anymore because that girl was the one who drove everyone away.

And I mean I guess I repressed those feelings, I like being in control and I’m not…I am not the dominant one anymore. Should women have the power? Is it all about the power play? You tell me.

As I sit here watching the penultimate episode to season one’s gossip girl, which I started last week, I start to ask myself, why are we, as a society, so addicted to dramas and reality TV?

Gossip Girl ( if you haven’t seen it) is based around the lives of the elite rich kids in Manhattan who take limos to school and on weekend have a glass of wine followed by a line of coke. Let’s face it, that isn’t the life of most ordinary fifteen-year-olds, in fact, at fifteen I was struggling to maintain a social life and keep my mum from killing me.

So why do we watch it? Some people say that it mixes fantasy with reality, I mean, rich children do exist, those ‘legacies’ that get everything they want, not because they really deserve it but because it’s handed to them on a silver platter. But I have failed to meet one yet, feel free to contact me though...

And, although we see some ‘out there’ events that happen in the series like people getting murdered or drug addictions most of it involves more realistic aspects such as; teenage dating, losing your virginity, friendships and learning to be yourself. I mean what fifteen year old has access to A class drugs and expensive alcohol? No, really...

Another aspect is people fantasising about what might have been, ‘what if the characters were from a working class background?’ ‘What if one day I become rich, would I let my children act this way?’ I can list a number of series that involve looking at how ‘the other half’ lives, and isn’t that what we all want? The ability to buy what we want, when we want and not have to worry about paying for our rent each month. But, these TV series show us that there can be consequences to living the high life, well, nothing that a bit of money can’t solve but it’s still drama.

The series 90210 focused on the rich kids of Beverly hills, but the main family who got involved with these children were not rich themselves, much like the Humphrey family in Gossip Girl. This slant on the series enables us, as ‘normal’ people to empathise with the characters that just want to fit in, in a crazy world of plastic and money. But I mean, what chance have I got in moving to Beverly hills and making friends with Justin Bieber? Zero to none.

In hindsight, escapism is something we all want, whether that is in a good fiction novel, a superhero movie or a reality TV series, sometimes we need to escape from the nine to five working day and watch someone embarrass themselves by flashing their boobs at the camera. We want to be part of something bigger, something that matters and something we can relate to (kind of) and something that we desire.

When it comes down to it the real reason is we are all bored, there is a vicious circle when it comes to life and it involves money. We’ve got to work to earn money and for some of us, we like work, for the majority it is simply a means to earn the money to pay the rent and bills. However, in order to do activities on the weekends or take holidays we need extra expenses and for most of us, that’s not possible. So if we can’t go on adventures ourselves, what’s the next best thing? Watch somebody else doing it. This seems like a very sad state of affairs and for most of us -- it is. We save up money to go places but then an emergency will arise, say you lose a tooth and have to pay for dental or your car breaks down and you have to buy a replacement part, life doesn’t always go to plan.

I wish life was like a TV series, there’s always drama, always a party to go to and an endless supply of money. But, unfortunately, I’m stuck here in my mum's flat watching Gossip Girl and moaning about why I watch too much TV. Oh well, you know you love me...xoxo.

In the X-men universe there are strong rumours that Taylor Swift is set to be the newest addition to the team set to appear as the mutant popstar ‘Dazzler’.

This hearsay comes from actress Sophie Turner best known for her role as Sansa Stark on the HBO fantasy television series Game of Thrones. And who has also made an appearance in the X-men universe as a young Jean Grey. This intel comes from a ‘Flashback Friday’ picture on Instagram where Turner’s character is staring at a vinyl cover of the ‘Dazzler’ and the tag is Taylor Swift.

Alison Blaire, aka ‘Dazzler’, is a mutant who is able to transfer sound waves into energy or light beams. Originally, she was solely a Disco queen, in fact one of her alias’ is ‘Disco Dazzler’ but later on in the series she branches out to both pop and rock music. Are these sparkly boots too big to fill by a pop diva such as Swifty?

This news was made substantial as the cast of X-men recently visited Taylor’s recording studio. Is this another sign or are they simply set to record a number one musical number?

Rumours aside, the pop princess has been seen in lycra and alongside ‘superheroes’ in her video ‘Bad Blood’ with Cara Delevingne recently appearing in the DCEU as ‘Enchantress’. Does Taylor want to be part of the trend? Or part of something bigger, like the Marvel universe?

Does she have the qualifications to be an actress? Well, some of you may remember her role in Valentine’s Day alongside Taylor Lautner (one of her many exes) and she has also done voice acting in The Lorax. But more recently, she starred alongside Jeff Bridges in the young adult film The Giver. The superhero roles are taken seriously and most actors/actresses go through months of strenuous training to transform their bodies into superhuman condition.

It doesn’t matter what we say about Taylor, ‘cause the fact is ‘...haters gonna hate, hate, hate’...

The newest X-men movie, X-Men: Dark Phoenix is scheduled to be released in November 2018. Let’s see what happens.

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